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Where do the old people hang out?

topic posted Thu, November 9, 2006 - 1:34 PM by  S. Archer
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I mean, when they're not hanging out at home.

I want to be prepared for this eventuality, (should I be so lucky.)

Also, I'm just curious if there is such a place.

There used to be a Dunkin Donuts on 82nd that attracted a lively older set, but that's gone now (like all Dunkin Donuts in Portland.)
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S. Archer
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  • Re: Where do the old people hang out?

    Thu, November 9, 2006 - 3:16 PM
    like wherever you want to hang out, old dude.

    why just because you might get older does it mean that you have to "become" old? cant you just hang out in the same places with your same friends doing the same things?

    tell me why ageing is indicative to a social lobotomy. or do you not hang out anywhere besides home already?
    • Re: Where do the old people hang out?

      Thu, November 9, 2006 - 9:45 PM
      I know I can hang out wherever I want.

      I agree that anyone is free to do anything, including all the things they've always done - if that's what they want to do.

      But , already, I'm not necessarily that interested in doing all of the same things I did when I was 20.
      OK, once in a while, maybe.
      But I don't mind the idea of moving on, I don't feel the need to stay as I once was.
      I would think of it as following my interests wherever they lead - not as "social lobotomy."

      I think it's natural to be curious about what people your own age - or other ages - are like. Maybe each age has its own perspective, I don't know. Erikson believed that each age has its own unique challenge for growth and creating personal meaning.
      • Re: Where do the old people hang out?

        Fri, November 10, 2006 - 10:05 AM
        "I would think of it as following my interests wherever they lead - not as "social lobotomy." "

        then, again I have to say....carry on! .....as you were, or as you are going to be, which ever.

        if you are asking where old people hang out, are you really following your own interests, or are you subjecting yourself to the literature of of seeking out "someone elses experience?"

        its natural to be curious. period. you are curious.....hmmm. that in its self is curious.

        have a good friday S. Archer!
  • Re: Where do the old people hang out?

    Thu, November 9, 2006 - 3:31 PM
    hmm...having perused your profile I honestly can't condone you as considering yourself "old" *grins* so I can't really reccommend anywhere (I also can't because I don't know..but if I see a crowd of rowdy interesting looking older folks caraousing about I'll let you know!)
  • Re: Where do the old people hang out?

    Thu, November 9, 2006 - 3:34 PM
    Considering the replies you are getting, maybe you might re-phrase the question?
    • I am surprised, so here are a couple of things I'll try to be clearer about;

      1) "Old" is not a depreciative word form anymore than "pink" or "petunia" are. But "old" is real. If I should make it to 60 something, I will tell you that I am having the experience of being old. Just ask me then. I hope for the best when I get there, for all of us.

      2) I like old people. I'm a minor history geek and an explorer, so I like talking to people who know what a place was like before I arrived on the scene. Not to mention a sometimes unique type of style or manners.
      I like young people too, but they are superabundant, so it's no mystery where they hang out. I used to live right by the Aalto Lounge and Stumptown, and I had to wade through hipsters who clung to my trouser legs like kittens, just to buy a newspaper. Not that I'm complaining, mind you. It's a vibrant scene that's been created there, etc.

      So, in closing, I like old people, but I don't see them around much just hanging out in groups: not like walking into the Aalto Lounge on a Saturday night, for example.
      • Old is an accomplishment. I'm 45 and I've already had the lovely experience of going to the funerals of some of my friends. They didn't make it to old. So, yes, in some ways, there are fewer old folks than hipsters (not that I know precisely what a hipster is, I'm working from context there).

        About where they hang out, I still don't know. I know where *I* hang out, but I don't qualify, yet. However, I plan to. And I presume I'll hang out in places that interest me. Places where I didn't have time to hang out before, due to the time sinks of raising children or having a job or whathaveyou. I still want to go to Voodoo doughnuts, fr'instance! (tee-hee)
      • I sometimes accompany my mom to plays and movies in the afternoons. I see lots of older folks in those places (perhaps including me). The theater for a matinee showing of that movie about Queen Elizabeth (Queen?) was packed and the median age was probably 55. Mom also takes a French class with a lot of her older buddies, and I think an exercise class (Mom is hard to keep up with).

        I also often have senior folks auditing the classes I teach on a local campus. I like having them! They pay attention and ask good questions and are there to learn, not grub for grades. I think most of the local public colleges let seniors audit their classes for free. That's a good public activity.

        My one observation is that older people are generally not night owls. If you want to see them in their natural habitat, you have to look for them in the daylight.

        I agree, too, SA, being old is not good or bad, it just is. And, to my mind, better to be old than dead. Not sure what all the fuss was about the question in the first place.
        • "Not sure what all the fuss was about the question in the first place. " Welcome to Oregon, where we feel we simply MUST be "politically correct" about EVERYthing.

          "Old people" is an interesting term anymore. The older one gets, the farther away "old age" seems to be. It used to be that 60 was old. People in their 60's nowadays are people who were high school and college students in the 1960's. They're a whole different mind-set than their parents or grandparents. I'm 47 and something tells me I should at least feel "mature" by now, or "grown up". Many days I'm still 14. And yes, people in their 20's and 30's know how to have a good time, and I don't mind running with them when the opportunity arises, but I think a lot of us, no matter what age we are, often just simply prefer the company of people with the same age-related knowledge/feelings/memories as ourselves.

          Ladies "of a certain age" can join The Red Hat Society. They throw on their red hats and their purple outfits and have themselves a grand time together. They go to plays, museums, dinners, whatever they want to do. There's not a similar organization for the guys, but there SHOULD be.
          • >Welcome to Oregon, where we feel we simply MUST be "politically correct" about EVERYthing.

            Truth be told, I'm a second generation native. We weren't always so pc, more New Englandy polite (generally).

            >And yes, people in their 20's and 30's know how to have a good time, and I don't mind running with them when the opportunity arises, but I think a lot of us, no matter what age we are, often just simply prefer the company of people with the same age-related knowledge/feelings/memories as ourselves.

            >I'm 47 and something tells me I should at least feel "mature" by now, or "grown up". Many days I'm still 14.

            I'm 42 going on 12 most days. Maybe the boomer generation has redefined what it means to be "old," which I think is good. The older I get, the more convinced I am it's okay to do things "my way" rather than cave to the expectations of society in general.
  • Re: Where do the old people hang out?

    Thu, November 9, 2006 - 4:24 PM
    I only figured this out myself a few years ago: Anywhere.

    The good people of pdx are looking at your face, not your drivers license. Keep grinning, don't harsh anyone's trip if you can help it, and party like you don't get these years back. I knew I was home when I handed the bouncer at a Kaosmosis show my AARP card as ID.

    If you see my dome and gray beard around, tap me and we will drink at toast to your health and long life.
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    Re: Where do the old people hang out?

    Thu, November 9, 2006 - 10:50 PM
    Bingo, elks lodges, churches, freemasons? (not sure about that one) Personally, I liked hanging out at coffeehouses in Northwest when there were people of all ages there, there was one fellow there that I had great conversations with for a couple of years, and it was a lot of fun to walk over to Cinema 21 and watch intense movies. But it sounds like you don't have interest in being a den father to a bunch of kids.

    interesting question about lively activity for older folks... If there is a gaping hole out there you could create something.
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      Re: Where do the old people hang out?

      Sat, November 11, 2006 - 7:25 PM
      "lively activity for older folks"

      <snort>

      oh geezus.

      Arashi - you have a very nice reply. However, this whole topic is irritating.

      "Old" is a state of mind. My husband just turned 40 (going on 24) and still can throw bomb-ass parties while running his own business. I'm about to hit my sexual prime, and I have a hard time keeping up with him!

      Old? Please. Because you have a fetish with white hair, wrinkles and noxema, or Old because you have no friends, and are afraid of the hipsters? (hell, I'm afraid of the hipsters!)

      And maybe I'm just pissy due to your lack of information - esp. b/c your profile dosn't list your age.

      To the gentleman who used your AARP card at the Kaosmosis event - rock on! My OLD man and I will see you soon, I'm sure!

      -j
  • Re: Where do the old people hang out?

    Sat, November 11, 2006 - 10:49 PM
    Well.... I guess I would be old. I'm 50 and I like my age and I don't think about age unless I am around young people who are more conscious of it than I am! To answer your question, I hang out with other poeple with the same interests. I hang out with the bellydancers and the book readers and world music geeks and the SCAers (who also happen to be a very smart, and therefore, interesting bunch). I hang with knitters and potters and fabric artists and energy healers. I hang with people who like dogs, cats, fish..... you get the idea. So go hang with people who like the same things you do!

    If you like to read the paper and drink coffee, find a coffee spot in your neighborhood and go hang out. If you like running or bike riding, go to the local bike shop or running shoe store and find out when they have group rides/runs.

    And, yes, someday you too will be old. And you will find out it totally rocks! <wink!>